Dear My Future Wife,
How are you? I hope this letter finds you well and in a space to receive it. I can only imagine what you may be thinking at this point. Your thoughts may range from “Why is he writing a letter to me when he probably hasn’t met me yet” to “Why doesn’t he just wait to tell me this face to face”? All valid thoughts that I hope this letter will explain at some point.
Where do I begin? Well, I want you to know that I have been doing a lot of thinking about you, me and us. I know it might seem strange to think about something that I don’t have yet but actually it is not. Before I made my first jump shot, I thought about it. Before I scored my first touchdown, I thought about it. Before I got behind the wheel of a car for the first time, I thought about what it would feel like to drive. So you see it is not that difficult to think about you, my future wife.
I want to you know in advance that I am not perfect. I am prone to do some things that may leave you scratching your head. I did the same thing to my mom as a boy. Maybe it comes from my incessant need to prove to myself that I am the man. I don’t know. But I want you to know that I will always do the best I can for you, me and us. But it doesn’t mean that I won’t make my mistakes along the way. When I say I will do my best, it simply means that I will try my hardest to make sure that you and our family don’t have to pay for my mistakes.
I have a past. So do you. I don’t want either of our pasts to potentially damage our great future, my future wife. My growth as your future husband is incumbent on several things. Don’t keep me out emotionally when you are confronted with things you think I won’t understand. Allow our future relationship to be your place of rest and refuge. Talk with me not at me. Have faith in me even when you are struggling to find it. Always tell me the truth even when you think it might hurt my feelings. Believe that us as one can conquer anything this world throws our way. Trust me even if you have struggled to trust men of your past.
My future wife, I don’t want you to be perfect. I know that is not possible. I do not intend to marry you because you are perfect. I understand that you will be flawed because you are a human being before you are my future wife. I am going to marry you because I am going to be in love with you and I don’t want to live my life without you. I am marrying you because I have faith that you are the woman who was created for me. I am marrying you because you are everything I want and need in a future wife. I am marrying you because you are perfect for me. You will give me a sense of purpose that I never thought was possible before I met you. I started contemplating that purpose when I first thought of you – but once I find you, I will be on the path of something greater. I will be grateful to walk that path with you.
My future wife, our children will benefit from our relationship. Material items are nice and I am sure we will have them for our family. But the real benefits they will receive won’t be material. Our children will know how to love because they see it from us every day. I will kiss you in front of our kids (even when they go “ewww”). I will dance with you in front of our kids so they know it is okay for mommy and daddy to have fun too. We will laugh a lot. They will also learn how to resolve conflict from us. They will learn that respect starts at home. We, as their future parents, will respect them as the future individuals they were made to be. We will teach them character and morals, not in what we say but how we act and what we do. They will learn what a great relationship is like not from TV or music or the internet, but from us. They will know that they are important to us. But they will also know that no one is more important on this earth to me than you, my future wife.
I hope you are emotionally preparing yourself for what is to come. I don’t want you hold bitterness or anger from the last guy you wanted to be with in a relationship. I am not him and I don’t want to feel like I will pay for his transgressions. Those happenings had to happen to bring you to me and me to you. My future wife, sometimes I may do something that will remind you of him. Let me be clear – I am not him. I am me. Please remember that. If you haven’t already, forgive the things he did to you for you. If you struggle with that, I will do my best to support you through it. But ultimately, it falls on you.
My future wife, as I close this out, I want you to know that I can’t promise you that our relationship won’t have its bumps. It would be disingenuous for me to suggest otherwise. What I can promise is that our future will be filled with more smiles than frowns, more happy cries than sad ones, more joy than pain and more accomplishments than failure as long as we have each other and allow nothing to get in the way of it. Always know that I have love in my heart for you long before you become my future wife. I hope and pray our future always is truly forever.
I love you (even though you might not know it yet),
Your Future Husband
P.S. A response to my letter is permissible. 🙂
Erica McGee
I love this. It shows that he knows himself well enough to know what he wants and doesn’t want. It also shows that he’s not going to try and mold his future wife into what he wants or into something that she’s not.
Maxwell W. Styles
Thanks for your comment, Erica. It is much appreciated. My hope is that anyone who reads this will take a deeper look within themselves and strive to just try and be better. Take Care, Maxwell
Jose Angel Corujo Soto
Well billion percent successful she where ever she my future sons or daughters mother could not expect a. Hollywood 60 s movies relationship a mean God knows millions of man like me are hunting globally for her and she is just for me I meant she is my future spouse in this love seeking planet. I love girl .
Maxwell W. Styles
Jose, Thanks for the comment. Maxwell.
Catherine
Everything I’ve hoped for.
Maxwell W. Styles
Catherine, Thanks for reading and your comment. Continue to keep hope for what you want in a future husband and working toward being the future wife your future husband desires. Maxwell
Shannon
Maxwell, I am seriously crying right now. You have said everything almost exactly as I’ e always imagined a man should say to his future wife. Every word of that hit me. I hope you find her soon. As for me, I am hoping that my futurs husband thinks of me like you think of the future woman in your letter. Blessings your way.
Maxwell W. Styles
Shannon, Thanks for reading and commenting. Both are much appreciated. The letter isn’t about my personal desires; it is my hope that anyone who reads it will find something inside that compels them to seek to become what they ultimately desire for themselves and their future wife. The future husband who is out there for you does think of you this way – even if he hasn’t recognized it yet. 🙂 Blessings to you as well. Max
Shannon
I just got my heart broken today for the very first time. I don’t feel like I would ever find someone who feels just like you do Max. A very lucky lady in your life someday. I wish there were more like you.
Shannon
Dear future husband, The only comfort I find throughout the day is when I’m with you. Not physically, but spiritually; emotionally. I smile in the middle of crying because I know someday I will be relieved and happy because I will finally be in your arms. I wonder if you ever think of me. If you have a girlfriend or you aren’t thinking about getting married as of now, I understand. I will wait for you because you are the very soul that God made me for. I will consider our broken hearts a blessing. The reason is that when we do find each other and looking back to old memories of bitterness we will be more appreciative and grateful for each other. No wonder it never worked out with anyone else. They were obstacles that we had to pass to get to each other. I love you already. I hope that wherever you are, you are doing the best you can for God and preparing yourself to be a man; not a child who is confused with emotions. I hope for you to treat me like a queen. I don’t ever want to feel like trash and a doormat ever again. Not like an old pair of shoes. Honey, I will do my best to make you happy, to respect you, to understand you, and to love you. I realize that you are a man and are not perfect. But as long as you show effort and as long as your love is mine I will forever be your girl. It is true that a woman could only be an angel if you first create a heaven for her because angels don’t live in hell. Darlin’ I hope my home is being made for I have already started making fine linen for it. I want you to be comfortable to share anything with me because surely I will understand. My future husband, I am truly lonely. I miss you very much! I am sorry for any future conflicts. I hope there’s not much of that in our future. I am not perfect but I will give you all my best. I want to be your partner, your best friend, your lover, your nurse, your home. I pro ise to take good care of our children. To lead and teach them the right way. To be close to God. To have great love and kindness in their precious hearts. If we have a boy I want him to be just like you. For I know that you are a wonderful man because I wouldn’t settle for anything less. Our son will know how to treat a woman the way she deserves. To have respect for everyone. Our children will know that love crushes anything. I can’t wait to touch your face. To finally be at home. My castle, your kingdom. You are nameless, faceless, yet I love you greatly. I always have and I will always love you for who you are. My love, do take care of yourself. For now i will keep molding myself to be the wife that you needme to be. I will be patiently waiting. You might feel lonely and think that no one loves you. If so, you are wayyyy wrong! I feel you, I see you, I know you exist. I have seen you in my dreams without a face or name but i feel you especially when I’m about to burst from crying or missing you. Just know honey, I LOVE YOU. <3 Your angel, Shannon
Cat
Thank you so much for that. I’m currently in a relationship with a man I love but who makes me feel like I’m not enough, that I have to strive for perfection. But I don’t want perfect, I want everything you described. I finally understand that I won’t have that with him, I will be constantly critiqued. Thank you for showing me that I don’t have to be perfect, one day a man will love me not in spite of my flaws but for them. I don’t want to be perfect, I just want to dance in the kitchen with my future husband and have him dance with our future daughter and for us all to be happy. I guess just thank you for reminding me of that.