Pop quiz: “What’s the correct way to ask a woman out on a date?”

Trust me, it’s ok if you don’t have an answer to the question.

Here’s some truth: the average man has been approaching women since the age of 12 (and for some of us, that age was much earlier). And despite YEARS of practice, we still seem to lack a clear understanding on the proper way to ask a woman out.

So instead of just standing by while my fellow brothers try, only to crash and burn, I’ve decided to share 5 Essential Keys To Asking A Woman Out.

Disclaimer: After reading this article, your chances of success will only be attainable under the following conditions:

a.) She’s actually available.

b.) She’s at least mildly interested in you.

c.) You make yourself presentable (i.e., fresh breath, washed faced, ironed clothes, no felony arrests warrants for beating up kids … get the point?)

OK then, let’s begin …

  1. Get To The Point

There’s no bigger turnoff than a guy who beats around the bush. If asking her out is your primary objective, then make that known up front. The more time you waste working up the nerve to ask her out, the more likely it becomes that she’ll say no. So keep it short, sweet, and to the point.

  1. Don’t Pass The Buck.

Avoid passing the buck at all costs. A great example of this occurs when a guy starts off by saying, “I have a pretty flexible schedule, so just hit me up when you want to get together.”

Bad move.

In fact, you’d probably have a better chance convincing me that Khloe Kardashian’s butt is naturally curvy, than you would at getting a woman to call you after such a terrible approach. It’s your job to take the initiative when scheduling the date. So come equipped with the who, what, when, where and why.

  1. Originality Is The Key.

Presenting a unique date idea is also critical. The typical dinner and movie suggestions are cool, but in reality, it does nothing to separate yourself from the rest of the pack.

Truth be told, the average woman gets asked out at least 3-4 times on any given day—from the Fed Ex delivery guy, to her married coworker, to the guy selling iPhone 6 cases in the grocery store parking lot, she gets her fill of dudes spitting game on the regular.

That’s why it’s important to think outside of the box, and entice her with a creative date idea.

  1. Relax

If you’re nervous when asking her out, she can tell. So practice maintaining your cool. If she says yes, then your expression should suggest that you expected that outcome all along. Even if she says no, you should still remain composed.

My suggestion: Watch plenty of 2008 Barack Obama campaign footage. That was back when his cool was just as plentiful as there was black hair on his head.

  1. Make Sure That She Knows It’s A Date.

There’s nothing worse than going out on an “I think this is a date, but I’m not sure” type of outing. This mostly occurs when you don’t make it clear up front why you’re getting together. That makes things uncomfortable at the end of the night when she hi-fives you, and suggests that the two of you become buddies. (Side note: this happened to me once and I immediately asked her to reimburse me her part of the tab … ok, I didn’t do that, but I did mumble it under my breath .)

I can’t let that happen to you.

So make your intentions known up front. Or risk being banished to the dreaded friend zone.

The Man Logic Conclusion:

Now that I’ve given you the essential tips, it’s time to hear from you. What has worked for you in the past when asking a woman out? On the flip side, what were some of the things that have failed worse than Lebron’s attempts at rejuvenating his hairline? Let me know.

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