Jeff Sheldon

Why do women put so much emphasis on love? Love isn’t everything — is it? Love doesn’t equate to happiness — does it? Love certainly can’t mature without understanding — can it? I don’t think so. When it comes to love, people have different understandings of what love is and how love is supposed to feel. There are many people who love that are unhappy. I was one of them. Love is the bastard of a word that contributed to ruining my last relationship. In hindsight, love has no guarantee.

Love, love, love and more love.

My ex insisted that I love her the way that she so greatly imagined love to be (who the hell knows what that is). She would repeatedly tell me that, “I don’t love her the way she loves me.” What does that supposed mean? My love was never good enough for her. She wanted a fairy tail love and I couldn’t deliver. She was no damsel in distress and I was no Prince Charming. All of the emphasis she put on love created unnecessary stress and tension. Why couldn’t she just let love flow naturally? Proving to someone that you love them all the time is draining. Love was emotionally draining.

Love, love, love, love, love (drool).

My ex was utterly obsessed with her idea of love. Fuck having fun, “Do you love me?” was basically all I got out of it. I never imagined that loving someone would take so much work but it did. She wanted me to make ultimate sacrifices (everything besides death) to prove to her that I loved her. The more she pushed the issue, the more I pulled further and further away. We had more fun as friends before love ran its course. I was dating the Love Monster and didn’t even know it.

Love is terrifying.